Ah, goal setting. Often reserved for New Year’s resolutions and sales teams, I find many people are intimidated by the very idea of creating goals for themselves.
Be it for fitness, finances, new skills, or even relationships, at the very core of this intimidation is a deeply rooted fear: Fear of failure. I’m going to give you three strategies to go from feeling stuck in the same old cycles, to moving through the discomfort and into the life of your dreams.
In order to create any change for ourselves, we must first bring honest awareness to where we are and become clear on what our current reality looks like. Ask yourself: What needs to change? What beliefs are keeping me in this version of myself? What do I need to give myself permission to do? The reason you might not enjoy goal setting is because you must look under the hood of your life, which can be very challenging. Be gentle and compassionate with yourself.
Only once we’ve been openly candid with ourselves can we begin to map out our true goals. As children we would allow our imaginations to run wild. However, along the way our conditioning, and perhaps some hardships, slowly began to stop our dreaming. So, during this next phase, I invite you to connect with that part of yourself that still believes anything is possible. I always encourage my clients to be in a relaxed state of mind before answering these next few questions, either through deep breaths or post Reiki. Ask: Who do I want to become? What parts of myself do I want to develop? In my ideal world, what does a day in my life look like? What do I need to do to create this?
Though these questions seem easy enough, there might be some of you who have a hard time connecting to what it is you really want. That’s where working with a coach can really help. It’s an extra set of eyes and objective perspective that can navigate it with you together. Once we know your goals, we can create a strategy that will feel good but also stretch you enough out of your comfort zone to create actual change. As Albert Einstein once said, “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.” There must be growth within your habits to create a new identity that helps you commit and crush your newfound goals. This next step will give you a framework to begin implementing your new life vision. You just have to be SMART:
Specific: The more specific you become with your goal, the more you can begin to visualize and take aligned action. If you can get super specific, it is a good indicator that you have an emotional connection to the goal. And creating a deep meaning to the goal will give you an extra push to complete it.
Measurable: Sometimes when the goal isn’t tangible, it feels very removed from our current reality. This step is all about creating a way to measure progress. Be it numbers, pictures, recordings, or another measurable trait, there should be a way for you to track.
Achievable: This is one of those tricky ones. What seems achievable to you now might not reflect true capabilities, and you don’t want to bite off more than you can chew. Here, accountability and mentorship can be super useful. Work with someone who can help you break your goals down into digestible, weekly goals that lead up to your larger, overall goal.
Relaxed: With the changes and incredible results you’ll be experiencing, it’s important to prioritize time to integrate the success. Relax! Enjoy a zen day, incorporate some essential oils into your daily rituals, take a bath, or get a massage. Be kind, compassionate, and know that you’re doing great!
Timely: Create deadlines for yourself so that your goals begin to manifest into physical form. I encourage my clients to take it a step further and do something that really stretches them to use their new goal and courage. For example, if your goal is to become a better public speaker, then signing up for an opportunity to speak in front of an audience a few months from when you start your goal will be the perfect way to create commitment of time.
If any part of creating goals and sticking to them feels tricky for you to navigate, do not let that discourage you from making those beautiful leaps. Your soul and your life is evolving with you. Work with a mentor who can guide you through the process. You owe it to yourself to live the life you always desired. It’s time.
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